What “I Need Some Space” Really Means

The only words worse than the statement “I just need some space right now” can only be “it’s not you, it’s me”. Both sentences spell doom for your relationship as you have probably already figured out. There is some good news though and I hope you will think this through with me and see the logic in my words.

There can be only two reasons why a person would use either of these classic lines when ending a relationship. It is to avoid hurting their partner or to avoid looking bad themselves. When a relationship sinks to the point where either of these sentences are uttered the decision to end the relationship has been thought over long and hard. I am sorry but this is a fact. Now this doesn’t mean there aren’t things that you can do to repair the relationship or to get back together with your ex. I am just stating the facts as of this moment in time.

In most instances if your ex has told you that they need some space or “it’s not you, it’s me” there runs a thread of kindness and compassion. There could be an underlying reason for the breakup that you may not be able to see right now but in time you will find out the true reason why your ex has dumped you. For right now though they probably still have some feelings for you and this is a good thing…there is hope and much to be said for your future chances of reuniting with your ex.

You see, most people don’t want to hurt people, especially not people that they do care about. So your ex’s statements about just needing some space or time to figure things out is merely a nice way of dumping you so they don’t hurt you and so they don’t feel bad. It could be that they have another love interest or it could be a personal crisis that they are going through. There are times when people become bored with a relationship and the routine of life being with one person romantically. They may have friends who are dating many partners and the excitement and drama associated with playing such games can give a person a literal “high” and boost their self esteem.

There is a very good chance that at some point your ex will continue to try to let you down gently by offering their friendship. The fact that there were times when you two got along famously and really were the best of friends might tempt you to accept their offer but don’t take all of this to heart. It definitely is a way to keep the door open so you can “work your magic” when the time comes.

Some of the most effective ways to bring your ex back around and make them fall back in love with you again can be found in T.W. Jackson’s book “The Magic Of Making Up”. It would be perfect give the type of situation described above and offers a few different techniques that you can use to help your ex to come back to you without having to do any convincing at all. There is really nothing underhanded about the methods that T.W. Jackson gives you in this book and it offers multiple ways to set things up so your ex comes to the conclusion themselves that they want to be with you again.

So many other books offer ways of tricking your ex into getting back together with you using psychology and manipulation. Yes, there is a bit of this involved in “The Magic Of Making Up” but not in an underhanded way.

“The Magic Of Making Up” is more about recreating that connection with your partner as a way reminding them of how things used to be…and how things can and will be in the future. It’s about creating that magic that was often present in the beginning of your relationship and during those special times that make up the memories that you hold dear today.

Go to T.W. Jackson's “The Magic Of Making Up” Homepage to see how you can quickly and effectively recreate the connection with your partner and have them wanting you as much if not more than they did before. Create that magic with the help of “The Magic of Making Up”